A wake-up call. What matters in YOUR life?

This is an interesting story about how his daughter’s list made him change his worklife. My quote below is from The Independent.

While at the top of world finance, Mohamed El-Erian juggled £1.2trn of investments and wrestled with the knottiest economic problems. But it has now emerged his greatest dilemma arose from asking his daughter to brush her teeth.

When the Oxbridge-educated economist stepped down last year as the chief executive of the PIMCO investment fund, one of the largest on the planet, rumour was rife that he had fallen out with its founder Bill Gross. But Mr El-Erian yesterday revealed one main reason for leaving his high-pressured post was a mundane conversation with his then 10-year-old daughter about brushing her teeth which led to her writing him a note listing the 22 important events in her life he had missed due to work.

In an interview with Worth magazine, he said: “About a year ago, I asked my daughter several times to do something – brush her teeth I think it was – with no success. I reminded her that it was not so long ago that she would have immediately responded.

“She asked me to wait a minute, went to her room and came back with a piece of paper. It was a list that she had compiled of her important events and activities that I had missed due to work commitments. Talk about a wake-up call.”

He continued: “I felt awful and got defensive: I had a good excuse for each missed event! Travel, important meetings, an urgent phone call, sudden to-dos. But it dawned on me that I was missing an infinitely more important point.

“As much as I could rationalise it… my work-life balance had gotten way out of whack, and the imbalance was hurting my very special relationship with my daughter. I was not making nearly enough time for her.”

Are you doing what matters most in your life?

Worth: Father and daughter reunion
Mashable: Daughter’s List of 22 Big Moments He Missed Prompted Pimco CEO to Quit
The Independent: Mohamed El-Erian reveals daughter’s talk led to PIMCO exit

Giving up old dreams allow new ones to soar

After a really bad accident Janine couldn’t walk so she decided she should learn to fly. It’s an amazing and impressive story.

Cross-country skier Janine Shepherd hoped for an Olympic medal — until she was hit by a truck during a training bike ride. She shares a powerful story about the human potential for recovery. Her message: you are not your body, and giving up old dreams can allow new ones to soar. Doctors didn’t expect her to recover. But she not only learned to walk again — she learned to fly.

Video: A broken body isn’t a broken person

You can watch her presentation below or on YouTube A broken body isn’t a broken person.

Motivation, Drive and Dan Pink

Dan pink talks about three kinds of motivation:
1.0 biological (thirst, hunger).
2.0 external (carrot and stick).
3.0 internal (engagement).

Daniel Pink then focuses on Motivation 3.0 and explains more about what it is, when it works and why it works.

Video: RSA Animate – Drive: The surprising truth about what motivates us

This is an imated video that nicely summarizes the book and concept.

If you can’t see the video above then go to RSA Animate – Drive: The surprising truth about what motivates us.

Video: Daniel Pink: What Really Motivates Workers (CBS interview

This is an interview on CBS about intrinsic motivation, motivation 3.0.

If you can’t see the video above then go to Daniel Pink: What Really Motivates Workers.

Video: Daniel Pink on the surprising science of motivation – TED Talk

This video is a presentation Daniel Pink did on TED.

If you can’t see the video above then go to Daniel Pink on the surprising science of motivation.

Book:

The book is Drive – The surprising thruth about what motivates us which contains more information about the concept in the videos above. I’ve read the book and like it.

The book at The Book Depository: Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us (Paperback)

The Book Depository has free delivery worldwide on all their books.

Change and Freedom

I came across a photo of Freedom by Zenos Frudakis. It’s an amazing statue about breaking free. Zenos writes that:

I wanted to create a sculpture almost anyone, regardless of their background, could look at and instantly recognize that it is about the idea of struggling to break free. This sculpture is about the struggle for achievement of freedom through the creative process.

Although for me, this feeling sprang from a particular personal situation, I was conscious that it was a universal desire with almost everyone; that need to escape from some situation – be it an internal struggle or an adversarial circumstance, and to be free from it.

Coaching is about change, this statue shows the phases in the process from being stuck to being free.

Do You Have A Problem In Your Life?

This flow chart turned up in many places, I don’t know the original source. It’s a simple way to describe how we should deal with problems. It reminds me of the Serenity prayer.

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

There’s no need or use to worry about things we can not change.

Decide and Act

Jim Connolly posted What everybody ought to know about achieving their goals. It’s a great post, part of it goes like this:

The reality is that you don’t need to buy goal setting products. You simply need to know what you want and to make the decision to do everything you can, to make it happen.

Jim also posted What everybody ought to know about achieving their goals on Google+ where I took part in the discussion. One commenter wrote:

Someone once asked Dan Kennedy what the secret to life and business was. He held up an index card with one word written on it: ‘Decide.”

I think that is just part of what it takes so I wrote:

I think the “Decide”-card is only half the story. The other half is “Act”.

Jim summed it up in a comment in his blog:

Looking at the comments here and those on Google+, regarding this post, there’s a common theme.

Make the decision.
Do the work.

It may not sound very sexy, but it works.

Another comment on Jim’s post at the blog says:

I’ve discovered through those past tough weeks that most of us are “blind”, we don’t achieve our goals because we don’t see them.

That’s where a coach is helpful, they see things we can’t see ourselves since we are too close.

Nigel Marsh: How to make work-life balance work

I prefer to talk about creating harmony in your life but the message in this video is important and well worth considering.

Work-life balance, says Nigel Marsh, is too important to be left in the hands of your employer. At TEDxSydney, Marsh lays out an ideal day balanced between family time, personal time and productivity — and offers some stirring encouragement to make it happen.

Nigel is spot on – you’re the one responsible for creating the harmony you want in your life. No one else will or can do it for you.

Nigel says this regarding lives out of balance:

There are thousands and thousands of people out there living lives of quiet, screaming desperation who work long, hard hours, at jobs they hate, to enable them to buy things they don’t need to impress people they don’t like.

TEDx video

This was originally posted at Bengt’s Notes, another blog of mine.

Productivity in 11 Words

Today I was reminded about “Productivity in 11 Words” at Skelliewag through a post by Penelope Trunk who had seen it at Lifehacker.

Skellie summed it up in three lines and eleven words. It’s brilliant, short and to the point:

One thing at a time.

Most important thing first.

Start now.

It goes well with The only thing you can change:

You can’t change your entire life.
You can only change your next action.

This was originally posted at Bengt’s Notes, another blog of mine.

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