Surround yourself with the right people

It does matter who you have around yourself.

Surround yourself with people who make you happy. People who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.

Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.
Edmund Lee

How-To: When to Disconnect

There is a time and place for everything. Being connected is great – when needed. This video is great, 90 seconds and you realize that there are times when you shall disconnect from the virtual world.

Commercial From Thailand- Disconnect to connect

Source: Beautiful Commercial From Thailand Disconnect to connect.

This was originally posted at Bengt’s Notes, another blog of mine.

Ask more questions

I found Questionating over at ChangeThis. This manifesto pushes the concept of QuestionBanks, using sets of question as tools in meetings, projects etc.

What’s your favorite question? Over the years we’ve found that the most popular answers to this question are ‘why,’ ‘how,’ and ‘why not’ in that order. A trend we’ve also observed is that those who ask ‘why’ are typically more holistic or whole-brained thinkers, those who ask ‘how’ are typically more box thinkers, and those who ask ‘why not’ are typically the challenging thinkers. All types, of course, are equally valuable and equally required for innovation!

I love this part of the text:

Why does the typical 5-year old ask about 65 questions a day while the typical 40-something only asks about 6 questions a day?

In other words, ask like a child – be inquisitive!

This was originally posted at another (now extinct) blog of mine.

How do you change your thinking?

I got this quote a while back:

The greatest discovery of my lifetime was that a person can change the circumstances of his life by changing his thoughts.
William James

Change is an important issue, both on a personal level and for society and our world. It brings another quote to my mind: “Change comes from within.”

Another quote, by Albert Einstein:

Clearly the problems we suffer cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which we created them.

Albert said it well, to solve our problems (personal or at other levels) we have to think in a new way. The trick is to change how we think, being open minded helps a lot.

How do YOU change your thinking?

This was originally posted at another (now extinct) blog of mine.

Which tiger are you feeding?

I got this quote in one of my Daily Forwards Step:

An old man said to his grandson, “Boy, I have two tigers caged within me. One is love and compassion. The other is fear and anger.” The young boy asked, “Which one will win, grandfather?” The old man replied, “The one I feed.”
Indian tale

I prefer to feed love and compassion, which tiger are YOU feeding?

Outside The Comfort Zone

DailyOM today is about Outside The Comfort Zone – Things We Don’t Want To Do. It is worth remembering that the best way to solve this is by doing it.

Most of us have had the experience of tackling some dreaded task only to come out the other side feeling invigorated, filled with a new sense of confidence and strength. The funny thing is, most of the time when we do them, we come out on the other side changed and often wondering what we were so worried about or why it took us so long. We may even begin to look for other tasks we’ve been avoiding so that we can feel that same heady mix of excitement and completion.

Whether we avoid something because it scares us or bores us, or because we think it will force a change we’re not ready for, putting it off only creates obstacles for us. On the other hand, facing the task at hand, no matter how onerous, creates flow in our lives and allows us to grow.

We all have at least one thing in our life that never seems to get done. Bringing that task to the top of the list and promising ourselves that we will do it as soon as possible is an act that could liberate a tremendous amount of energy in our lives.

Source: DailyOM.

This was originally posted at another (now extinct) blog of mine.

Small Steps To Big Change

DailyOM today is about Small Steps To Big Change – Making Big Change Easier. This is about taking small steps instead of big leaps, a way to make changes manageable but also giving the chance to try out things.

When we decide that it’s time for big changes in our lives, it is wise to ease into them by starting small. Small changes allow us to grow into a new habit and make it a permanent part of our lives, whereas sudden changes may cause a sense of failure that makes it difficult to go on, and we are more likely to revert to our old ways. Even if we have gone that route and find ourselves contemplating the choice to start over again, we can decide to take it slowly this time, and move forward.

Sometimes the goals we set for ourselves are merely indicators of the need for change and are useful in getting us moving in the right direction. But it is possible that once we try out what seemed so ideal, we may find that it doesn’t actually suit us, or make us feel the way we had hoped. By embarking on the path slowly, we have the chance to look around and consider other options as we learn and grow. We have time to examine the underlying values of the desire for change and find ways to manifest those feelings, whether it looks exactly like our initial goal or not. Taking small steps forward gives us time to adjust and find secure footing on our new path.

Source: DailyOM.

This was originally posted at another (now extinct) blog of mine.